She's Losing Interest

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nice guy syndrome

First, let me tell you my situation. I've been dating Sasha for about three months now. I was unbelievably attracted to her from the start (she's 26 and a real hottie), and though I tried my best to stay a Challenge, I couldn't help myself from slipping into the worshipful "Nice Guy" syndrome, after which, predictably, she began to lose some interest in me.
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get other women's attention

If Sasha's Interest Level is 51% (like you say it is), the attention of other women will have a positive impact for the time being. But if her interest is just flickering at around 40% to 49%, these little back-and-forth skirmishes won't amount to much of anything. When you're in that south-of-the-50-yard-line range, she's just wasting your time and playing with your head.
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And then add Challenge to it. But it's probably too late.

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get your dating act together

Sure, maybe you'll meet someone new when you're flirting. And maybe there'll be an earthquake and a brick will fall and hit you in the head, too. The problem is that unless you toughen up and get the monkey off your back, when Miss Beautiful No. 2 comes along, you're going to play the same old record. You're going to make the same tired mistakes, and No. 2 is going to get rid of you, too. Except that when she does, you'll be four years older, you'll have a network of little wrinkles around your eyes, and you won't be as cute.
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How To Read A Woman's Interest Level

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for a woman who has never met you before, to be motivated to initiate a conversation with you in a public place, her Interest Level in you must be at least 80% or higher -- get it?

Understand something else, Martin. Just because a woman has 80%+ Interest Level in you, that alone does not guarantee that she will approach and initiate contact with a guy that she's attracted to. If she's an old-fashioned kind of gal, she'll still wait for the man to make the first move. Why? Because society dictates that it's the male who must be the aggressor. She still may think, "Hey, it's his job to put himself at risk, not mine."
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you're up at bat

So Martin, when you're considering approaching a woman you've never been introduced to, be aware of what her body language is saying. Check out and properly evaluate every non-verbal signal that you can find. Then, if you're getting some kind of buying signals, make an attempt to strike up a conversation with her. Of course, try to get her to laugh right off the bat if at all possible.

But do not wait for her to make the first move. And even if she does make the first move, do not wait for her to ask for your phone number. You must take charge, be assertive and go for the gold. She'll respect you for it when you do.
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Doc Love: Dealing With An Alpha Female

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We don't break up with women -- they drop us. Get it? Sure, something was missing for her -- 51 points of Interest Level! It was 100% for around 180 days, but you managed to lower it to 49%. That's the missing "chemistry" she was talking about. Chemistry is the twin sister of Challenge.

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she “just doesn’t get along with other girls”
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she’s emotionally cheating on me ?

How do I combat her alpha-female habits/ attitudes and also keep her stimulated enough so that her alpha-female personality doesn’t get bored ? Please help !
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doc love’s answer

Hi Foster,

I’m going a little out of order here, but please bear with me. Number two: You dated this girl when she was between 18 and 22. And when you fall in love with a babe in that age range, you’re asking for trouble. Like the old Chinese proverb goes, “At that age they’re a tad flighty, grasshopper.”
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you’ve been drop-kicked

You guys didn’t break up; Sara dropped you. She dropped you because she wanted the attention of 500 other guys.
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Did you notice that Sara talked only about how much you care about her and she’s not talking about her wild passion for you? And all this isn’t because she’s a so-called “alpha female,” it’s because you turned her off and she has low Interest Level.

tap dancing on her ego

All you guys ever want to do is rationalize the woman’s behavior. Every time a woman does something nasty to you, you make the excuse that she’s an alpha female, that she’s shy or that she’s been hurt. You always come up with a second, third or fourth reason why you got dumped, but never the FIRST, MOST IMPORTANT REASON -- which is LOW INTEREST LEVEL. This girl doesn’t dig you. And if you did leave her the first time -- which I doubt -- she only came back to you because she couldn’t believe that you didn’t come crawling back to her begging like 90% of guys do when she’s in that 40% to 49% Interest Level range.

Sara only told you she wanted to be with you forever to get you back because you rubbed her ego wrong. She was just playing an ego game with you, and now you have her mixed up with an alpha female -- which is really a bunch of BS.

... She craves attention and she has to have it. ... She probably has very low self-esteem and one man will never be able to fulfill her.” You don’t stand a chance, buddy.

... alpha females with high Interest Level don’t play games with their men. ... She’s about as alpha as they come and even the fact that her husband has repeatedly cheated on her hasn’t lowered her Interest Level.

And by the way, when is Sara going to learn to handle all this male attention ? When she’s collecting Social Security ?

she’s running with the pack

Dude, why would you want to be with a girl who’s running around with your friends ? ...

... Whether she gets along with other girls or not is not an issue here. The point -- the only point -- is her Interest Level toward you. ... This whole thing about incorporating you into her “guy-friend time” has absolutely nothing to do with the issue of her interest in you. ...

Sara’s not scared of settling down. As a matter of fact, she’s not scared of anything. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “She’s only scared of having to spend time with you, when she’d rather be with the rugby team !”

she has to like you to cheat

And she’s not cheating on you either; to cheat on you she’d have to have high Interest Level in you in the first place.

Sadly, you can’t keep Sara from getting bored. Like my cousin Brother Love down in Watts says: “Too late, dawg. Her Interest Level crossed over into Mexico.”

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... For the past 30 years Doc Love has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another ?”

How To Deal With Bored Married Women

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How To Deal With Bored Married Women

By Doc Love

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Success Coach

This week's letter comes from a guy who wants to know why bored, married, rich women keep coming on to him.

reader's question

Hey Doc,
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unhappily married women

What's complicating this situation is that I seem to keep running into unhappily married women who show an interest in me. These are women whom I've met through my work (I own a small manufacturing business.) I'll give you examples.

First there's Dominique, a stunning Frenchwoman who is married to an American man. He's a successful financial analyst; a very nice man (I've met him a couple of times) and they have two young children. The problem, says Dominique, is that she's not in love with her husband anymore. He doesn't pay attention to her and is always working. They are well off and have all the trappings; it goes without saying. She claims that she is physically attracted to me, but so far when we've been alone, she has made no move to touch me.

unhappily separated women

Another example is Ava, a gorgeous redhead in the process of getting separated from her wealthy stockbroker husband. They have five kids, and her complaints about her soon-to-be-ex are the same as Dominique's, with the addition that Ava's husband is also mentally and physically abusive. Ava and her kids are also well provided for, but she's not happy. She also says she's attracted to me, but when we went for a walk in the park the other day, she said that she "wasn't ready" to go any further at this point because her head's "not right." But what threw me for a loop is that she revealed to me right afterward that she's already dating a musician.
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doc love's answer

Hi Quentin,
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these gals are coming to you for business reasons. You haven't talked about trying to meet females by working the Internet, or going to a dance club, or attending a cooking class or awareness seminar.

The point is that you're really not going out and consciously "meeting" this type of woman.
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They just appear to be it for the time being.

were these women in love ?

Did you ask Dominique if when she married her poor sap of a husband she was in love with him ?
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Don't you see that, Quentin? And don't for a minute jump to the conclusion that the mess she's in is definitely the fault of her husband. What she's handing you is just Womanese for "I'm bored, and I need to play with someone else's head for a while !"

Here's another question you should have asked her: How does she think her kids are going to be provided for after she dumps hubby ? I hate to have to break this to you, pal, but Dominique's selfish, and all she's thinking about is herself, not her kids. And they deserve to be thought about. After all, like my cousin Brother Love says, "The little ones didn't ask for your misery, did they ?"

These women are players, so it's time you started using them ...
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need someone to moan to about how terrible their lives are
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be patient with women

So, buddy, rather than get yourself entangled in a quagmire with one of these two temptresses, what you're going to do is get Dominique and Ava to set you up with their best-looking girlfriends who are single. Tell them, "Next time you want to get together and talk about your husband problems, bring along one of your hottest friends. In fact, bring along two of them. I don't want you to think I'm a hog or anything, but what the heck, let's spread all this love around !"

You're not going to go chasing after these two beauties, Quentin.
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Ava and Dominique might be lovely on the outside, but they're not lovely on the inside.

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